Hope confidently took control. Depression knew it was time to go. Hope was not always so confident. Depression and his brother Doubt tried to share the same space. the "remember when's" from depression, together with the "what if's" from doubt, not to mention when both chimed in "if only!"
But that was then. Now Hope, learning from the past, raised her head and said, "NO MORE!" Both Depression and Doubt whispered sincerely, "we'll be back when you are not staring us down with Intention and Purpose protecting you".
It has been a lifelong struggle to gain control and then to maintain that control of feelings and thoughts. When I finally realized that living by feelings was nothing but an endless roller coaster ride. It was like being at the ocean, watching the waves crashing onto the shore. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. There is no "off" switch. It is hypnotic, exhilarating, repetitive, mind numbing. As much as I love it, there comes that time to find the strength to break away, to get a different perspective.
When you decide to take charge of your life, expect Obstacles and Adversity to be there waiting, just as Depression and Doubt were, but their words will be "give up" "you are not 'good' enough", they may even try to convince you that you are not "smart enough, "pretty enough", "successful enough", or whatever YOUR dreams and desires are.
Why do others encourage you to fail? It does not make sense. Realize it is "them" not you. You can do this, but first, you must give yourself permission to be "brave enough to try, and strong enough to succeed"!
Monday, September 1, 2014
Friday, June 6, 2014
Take a deep breath and jump in...
What does this sound like to you? Summer at the swimming pool, learning to dive, or at least tread water so you don't drown?
What it means for me is:
1- come up with an idea
2- develop a plan
3- make a commitment
4- follow through
5- observe what happens next
So that is what I have done.
1- I wrote a book, have edited as best I know how, have several people reading it and I am waiting on their feedback.
2- I came up with a marketing plan for my book.
3- I committed the entire future of this project to God
4- I launched my website today. www.winoverwhy.com
5- the hardest part is done, the preparation. Now comes the opportunity to share my message with others.
Has this been an easy journey? Oh no, but the payoff has been fabulous. The freedom from depression, Chronic pain, fear, self-doubt. All gone. Will anyone else think I have something of value to share? not for me to decide, each person will come to their own conclusion based on their life experiences.
Mine is a story that has the elements of overcoming adversity, finding the answers that worked for me, and realizing there were some universal principles that would help others to do the same when they recognize what is holding them back.
Life is for living. Not in fear, depression, or doubt. But with an attitude of adventure and purpose with a plan. Let me help you develop your purpose so you can plan your life's adventure with a plan you are proud of.
What it means for me is:
1- come up with an idea
2- develop a plan
3- make a commitment
4- follow through
5- observe what happens next
So that is what I have done.
1- I wrote a book, have edited as best I know how, have several people reading it and I am waiting on their feedback.
2- I came up with a marketing plan for my book.
3- I committed the entire future of this project to God
4- I launched my website today. www.winoverwhy.com
5- the hardest part is done, the preparation. Now comes the opportunity to share my message with others.
Has this been an easy journey? Oh no, but the payoff has been fabulous. The freedom from depression, Chronic pain, fear, self-doubt. All gone. Will anyone else think I have something of value to share? not for me to decide, each person will come to their own conclusion based on their life experiences.
Mine is a story that has the elements of overcoming adversity, finding the answers that worked for me, and realizing there were some universal principles that would help others to do the same when they recognize what is holding them back.
Life is for living. Not in fear, depression, or doubt. But with an attitude of adventure and purpose with a plan. Let me help you develop your purpose so you can plan your life's adventure with a plan you are proud of.
Friday, November 25, 2011
What can consumer's expect from your business?
I realize this post is coming out during the stressful holiday shopping season and that every business is vying for your hard earned dollars to try to make a profit so they can continue to stay in business. They are in the business of exchanging their services/merchandise for your money.
What do you give them in return besides your money? Are you a loyal customer?
Have you helped this business decrease advertising by sharing your positive experiences or have you caused them to increase their prices due to higher advertising costs because of your failure to support them?
Less than 100 years ago many areas of this country had few choices when it came to shopping. Most of our country was still developing, few choices were available, you could go to the local general store and get everything from flour to the latest fashion (kinda like wal-marts of their time).
What are the store’s doing now to create an experience that makes you want to happily, willingly part with your money?
How is their customer service, do you feel welcome in their business or are you just a wallet and a paycheck for someone? Do employers realize how important their front line employees are?
I am posing these questions as I have read survey after survey of customer’s complaining about poor shopping experiences, and stores complaining about consumer’s only looking for bargains and not caring about the customer experience.
Who is right? Is one group right and the other wrong>
Are we not ALL customers of some business?
For each of us that have a job, do we not deal with at least one other person that is depending on our skill to promote the business we are affiliated with that provides us with a paycheck?
Why are we saying one thing as a customer and then something different when we are at work providing “customer service”?
How is one experience so different from the other? What, if anything can be done differently to change the outcome?
Well, what outcome do you wish to have?
Do you want your children to have the same experiences you have had as a consumer, as an employee?
Who is responsible for the current state of consumer experiences?
Who is responsible for the current state of employee experiences?
Don’t you dare tell me it is the governments fault.
But let’s have a clean, real discussion, working towards the goal of improving relations between business owners/employees/consumers.
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
So I think I am ready to learn more...
What is "it" that you think you are ready to learn? How to make money? How to be successful? What have you done to lay the foundation for your success?
Who are you listening to? Who or what is your biggest influence?
That is a lot of questions that I have just posed to you, and have you really thought out what the answers are?
Not simple one or two word answers, but deep, thoughtfully crafted answers that are centered around what you really want to achieve in your life.
I have been studying trying to learn how to "break through" to the next level of the "ME" I want to be. There is a lot of information out there, some of it sounds really good, until you dig below the surface and find that it really doesn't take you where you thought you wanted to go.
You can spend a lot of time, energy and money on these programs.
There are Real Estate Gurus, Energy Tapping Gurus, Instant Wealth Gurus, you get my drift, right?
Now I am not in a position to argue if any of these are right or wrong, or if they are valid teachings.
I will tell you right now,I am not in a financial position to prove or disprove any one's claim to any of these techniques. For all I know any or all of them may be plausible, real ways towards wealth and fortune and fame, if, that is what you are seeking.
I am seeking inner peace, and my own path to success. I help other people become successful, that is how I have always described myself. If you are successful,and I have had any influence in any of your decisions in your journey, I feel like I have contributed, at least a little towards your success and therefore I have always stated that I too am successful. I have always and will continue to believe in this statement. BUT, I have learned there is more to it than that.
And that, my friend, is what I am talking about today.
Have I discussed with you in depth, how I have come this far? And, how I KNOW I have so much more to learn?
I am an observer of life, then I absorb the information, and then figure out how to apply it.
Not all lessons have been pleasant, or easy. No I haven't found out the secret to wealth, but I have figured out how to be happy with what I do have, and to know I have the ability to do more as long as I remain receptive to new thoughts and truths that are real and provable.
Over the last several days I have been observing and absorbing some new (to me) teachings, and as I disseminate the information and learn to apply it I will share with you what I learn, so that hopefully, together, we can hold each other up in our new found information and grow wiser with the sharing of knowledge and power. Because that is what knowledge is- it is power and when properly used can unleash a whole new set of circumstances and opportunities.
Looking forward to sharing more tomorrow with you, I will be here, will you?
Who are you listening to? Who or what is your biggest influence?
That is a lot of questions that I have just posed to you, and have you really thought out what the answers are?
Not simple one or two word answers, but deep, thoughtfully crafted answers that are centered around what you really want to achieve in your life.
I have been studying trying to learn how to "break through" to the next level of the "ME" I want to be. There is a lot of information out there, some of it sounds really good, until you dig below the surface and find that it really doesn't take you where you thought you wanted to go.
You can spend a lot of time, energy and money on these programs.
There are Real Estate Gurus, Energy Tapping Gurus, Instant Wealth Gurus, you get my drift, right?
Now I am not in a position to argue if any of these are right or wrong, or if they are valid teachings.
I will tell you right now,I am not in a financial position to prove or disprove any one's claim to any of these techniques. For all I know any or all of them may be plausible, real ways towards wealth and fortune and fame, if, that is what you are seeking.
I am seeking inner peace, and my own path to success. I help other people become successful, that is how I have always described myself. If you are successful,and I have had any influence in any of your decisions in your journey, I feel like I have contributed, at least a little towards your success and therefore I have always stated that I too am successful. I have always and will continue to believe in this statement. BUT, I have learned there is more to it than that.
And that, my friend, is what I am talking about today.
Have I discussed with you in depth, how I have come this far? And, how I KNOW I have so much more to learn?
I am an observer of life, then I absorb the information, and then figure out how to apply it.
Not all lessons have been pleasant, or easy. No I haven't found out the secret to wealth, but I have figured out how to be happy with what I do have, and to know I have the ability to do more as long as I remain receptive to new thoughts and truths that are real and provable.
Over the last several days I have been observing and absorbing some new (to me) teachings, and as I disseminate the information and learn to apply it I will share with you what I learn, so that hopefully, together, we can hold each other up in our new found information and grow wiser with the sharing of knowledge and power. Because that is what knowledge is- it is power and when properly used can unleash a whole new set of circumstances and opportunities.
Looking forward to sharing more tomorrow with you, I will be here, will you?
Saturday, October 29, 2011
So Here is "The Plan"
Have you ever heard that one before?
I think it is a wonderful idea to plan. Your day, Your life, Your career, Your family, Your retirement.
But it seems like every single time I plan, something happens and the "plan" has to change. So if you are aware, you adapt to the change and go with the flow, and can change your plan without a meltdown.
But there are some people who choose differently and make loud noises, how life is not fair (I didn't know it was supposed to be), that they are the "victim" of someone/something else, and that it is not their fault. It makes me wonder then, if they are not in control of their circumstances, how DO they get through life? When things don't go the way you plan do you stop eating? Do you stop taking care of your daily activities like watching tv?, listening to the radio, talking with your friends/family? Do you stop taking a shower/bath? Oh my, look at me asking all these mundane questions. Of course you do these things, you get out of bed, do your daily routine, eat, watch tv, or listen to the radio, or read the paper, the things that give you some type of comfort will be the last thing you will ever give up.
Life may NOT be going on around you according to YOUR plan, but LIFE IS going on with or without you. Will you choose to participate and learn to adapt to change, or will you choose to continue to make yourself (and everyone you come in contact with) miserable until nobody wants to listen to you any longer and by the way, at some point people will start to tune you out.
My wish for you is, to take the high road, have the courage to reinvent yourself. Is it scary to do this? Sure it is. Is there a payoff for you if you do this? That depends, are you ready to find out?
I think it is a wonderful idea to plan. Your day, Your life, Your career, Your family, Your retirement.
But it seems like every single time I plan, something happens and the "plan" has to change. So if you are aware, you adapt to the change and go with the flow, and can change your plan without a meltdown.
But there are some people who choose differently and make loud noises, how life is not fair (I didn't know it was supposed to be), that they are the "victim" of someone/something else, and that it is not their fault. It makes me wonder then, if they are not in control of their circumstances, how DO they get through life? When things don't go the way you plan do you stop eating? Do you stop taking care of your daily activities like watching tv?, listening to the radio, talking with your friends/family? Do you stop taking a shower/bath? Oh my, look at me asking all these mundane questions. Of course you do these things, you get out of bed, do your daily routine, eat, watch tv, or listen to the radio, or read the paper, the things that give you some type of comfort will be the last thing you will ever give up.
Life may NOT be going on around you according to YOUR plan, but LIFE IS going on with or without you. Will you choose to participate and learn to adapt to change, or will you choose to continue to make yourself (and everyone you come in contact with) miserable until nobody wants to listen to you any longer and by the way, at some point people will start to tune you out.
My wish for you is, to take the high road, have the courage to reinvent yourself. Is it scary to do this? Sure it is. Is there a payoff for you if you do this? That depends, are you ready to find out?
Monday, October 17, 2011
Following Instructions
This is a study in trust and following instructions
1. Close your eyes
2. Put your right hand on your stomach
3. Place your left hand on top of your head
4. Start to rub your stomach in a circular motion
5. Start to pat the top of your head
6. Stop
7. Open your eyes
8. How did you do? Were you successful?
9. Try it again with your eyes open- how did you do? Did you feel more or less successful?
10. Try this with your left hand on your stomach and your right hand on your head.
This is just an example of how management can implement change with their employees who then in turn implement change to the customer.
Why would you want your employee to rub their stomach and pat their head?
Why would you want them to show this to the customer?
What could the results be if what you envision for your customers to experience is explained to your employees and they can then figure out how best to approach the customer with the idea that the end result will be a more loyal customer because they understand how working with your company benefits them.
How long do you have someone perform a function, or set of functions before you introduce change?
If someone is struggling with certain aspects of their job performance, what do you do first to get them to believe they need to change and how does this affect morale?
Thursday, October 13, 2011
Facebook Gratitude Journal
At the end of August I started posting an online gratitude journal. I was inspired to do this from different authors I had been reading both on facebook and a few books I had recently read.
So here is what I have discovered in the 6 weeks that I have been writing.
By being aware, and giving voice to my gratitude, I have experienced personal growth, been more aware of my communication style, worked at listening more consistently.
Controlling the controllables in my life, which is improving my self confidence.
Now for you, my readers I implore you to be more compassionate, Dream your dreams and focus on your goals, ensure your goals and dreams are in alignment with your beliefs so that you can follow your path. You may find yourself mentoring others along the way and you are an inspiration whether you realize it or not.
Do not allow negativity into your circle of friends, support one another, receive constructive feedback. Release your fears, and anger, they do not serve your purpose. Your emotions can hold you back. Do not allow this to happen. You are in control, don't let anyone keep you from achieving your goals, you are not a victim. Hold your head high, be self assured, and you will find peace within.
Ok so I am sure you have heard perhaps all of this information before, but my question to you is- why have you not acted on it yet, what is holding you back? Fear? Guilt? "Friends"? Family?
Look honestly inside yourself and you will find that you are worth it, you are a valued person by at least one other in the universe.
Go and live your BEST life, starting now, today, don't wait for tomorrow, you are wasting time.
https://www.facebook.com/wowenterprises
So here is what I have discovered in the 6 weeks that I have been writing.
By being aware, and giving voice to my gratitude, I have experienced personal growth, been more aware of my communication style, worked at listening more consistently.
Controlling the controllables in my life, which is improving my self confidence.
Now for you, my readers I implore you to be more compassionate, Dream your dreams and focus on your goals, ensure your goals and dreams are in alignment with your beliefs so that you can follow your path. You may find yourself mentoring others along the way and you are an inspiration whether you realize it or not.
Do not allow negativity into your circle of friends, support one another, receive constructive feedback. Release your fears, and anger, they do not serve your purpose. Your emotions can hold you back. Do not allow this to happen. You are in control, don't let anyone keep you from achieving your goals, you are not a victim. Hold your head high, be self assured, and you will find peace within.
Ok so I am sure you have heard perhaps all of this information before, but my question to you is- why have you not acted on it yet, what is holding you back? Fear? Guilt? "Friends"? Family?
Look honestly inside yourself and you will find that you are worth it, you are a valued person by at least one other in the universe.
Go and live your BEST life, starting now, today, don't wait for tomorrow, you are wasting time.
https://www.facebook.com/wowenterprises
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