Saturday, October 29, 2011

So Here is "The Plan"

     Have you ever heard that one before?
     I think it is a wonderful idea to plan. Your day, Your life, Your career, Your family, Your retirement.
     But it seems like every single time I plan, something happens and the "plan" has to change. So if you are aware, you adapt to the change and go with the flow, and can change your plan without a meltdown.
     But there are some people who choose differently and make loud noises, how life is not fair (I didn't know it was supposed to be), that they are the "victim" of someone/something else, and that it is not their fault. It makes me wonder then, if they are not in control of their circumstances, how DO they get through life? When things don't go the way you plan do you stop eating? Do you stop taking care of your daily activities like watching tv?, listening to the radio, talking with your friends/family? Do you stop taking a shower/bath? Oh my, look at me asking all these mundane questions. Of course you do these things, you get out of bed, do your daily routine, eat, watch tv, or listen to the radio, or read the paper, the things that give you some type of comfort will be the last thing you will ever give up.
     Life may NOT be going on around you according to YOUR plan, but LIFE IS going on with or without you. Will you choose to participate and learn to adapt to change, or will you choose to continue to make yourself (and everyone you come in contact with) miserable until nobody wants to listen to you any longer and by the way, at some point people will start to tune you out.
     My wish for you is, to take the high road, have the courage to reinvent yourself. Is it scary to do this? Sure it is. Is there a payoff for you if you do this? That depends, are you ready to find out?

Monday, October 17, 2011

Following Instructions

This is a study in trust and following instructions

1.       Close your eyes

2.       Put your right hand on your stomach

3.       Place your left hand on top of your head

4.       Start to rub your stomach in a circular motion

5.       Start to pat the top of your head

6.       Stop

7.       Open your eyes

8.       How did you do? Were you successful?

9.       Try it again with your eyes open- how did you do? Did you feel more or less successful?

10.   Try this with your left hand on your stomach and your right hand on your head.

This is just an example of how management can implement change with their employees who   then in turn implement change to the customer.

Why would you want your employee to rub their stomach and pat their head?

Why would you want them to show this to the customer?

What could the results be if what you envision for your customers to experience is explained to your employees and they can then figure out how best to approach the customer with the idea that the end result will be a more loyal customer because they understand how working with your company benefits them.

How long do you have someone perform a function, or set of functions before you introduce change?
If someone is struggling with certain aspects of their job performance, what do you do first to get them to believe they need to change and how does this affect morale?

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Facebook Gratitude Journal

     At the end of August I started posting an online gratitude journal. I was inspired to do this from different authors I had been reading both on facebook and a few books I had recently read.
So here is what I have discovered in the 6 weeks that I have been writing.

     By being aware, and giving voice to my gratitude, I have experienced personal growth, been more aware of my communication style, worked at listening more consistently.
Controlling the controllables in my life, which is improving my self confidence.

    Now for you, my readers I implore you to be more compassionate, Dream your dreams and focus on your goals, ensure your goals and dreams are in alignment with your beliefs so that you can follow your path. You may find yourself mentoring others along the way and you are an inspiration whether you realize it or not.

     Do not allow negativity into your circle of friends, support one another, receive constructive feedback. Release your fears, and anger, they do not serve your purpose. Your emotions can hold you back. Do not allow this to happen. You are in control, don't let anyone keep you from achieving your goals, you are not a victim. Hold your head high, be self assured, and you will find peace within.

     Ok so I am sure you have heard perhaps all of this information before, but my question to you is- why have you not acted on it yet, what is holding you back? Fear? Guilt? "Friends"? Family?
Look honestly inside yourself and you will find that you are worth it, you are a valued person by at least one other in the universe.

     Go and live your BEST life, starting now, today, don't wait for tomorrow, you are wasting time.
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Monday, October 10, 2011

Dream- Believe- Achieve and more

Do you have a dream?

Do you Believe in your Dream?

What are you doing to Achieve your Dream?

Let me share with you MY DREAM.

     I enjoy helping people. So earlier this year, I tied that desire towards a more purposeful goal.

I became a Certified Professional Coach for Life/Business/Career along with my desire to help; I also developed a Customer Service Skills Training program.

     But there is also the realization that I must take action, self-discipline to complete some tasks that need to be done to give even more, it is in the ordinary routine of day in-day out that I am finding much to do, and sometimes feel little is being accomplished, until I step back and see how necessary the little things are. I also remind myself that I'm not really in charge of all that happens. I am responsible for my preparation, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I am always guided to give the message that is needed-if I've done the preparation!

     For perspective, I am thinking that since I left my previous job, I have recovered emotionally and physically, and rediscovered the source of my strength. By becoming a coach I also had the opportunity to write a book that is published on Amazon available on Kindle (Nate's Adventure's with Aspergers and ADHD), and then started writing a second book. I developed a series of motivational speeches, developed several presentations for Customer Service Skills for small and medium sized businesses, joined a local Chamber of Commerce and attended several functions for networking purposes, and I know there is so much more to do.

      I can only compare this to like building a house, realizing I am not in this line of business I apologize in advance if I missed any steps.

      First you decide you are ready to build, you check for funds available, your credit is good, you have researched where you want your house to be located, determined an approximated cost of land, land preparation and construction. Then you choose a contractor who has to take several steps of their own before they can get ready to clear the land and be ready to begin to lay the foundation. All of the preparation can take several weeks to several months to be ready before there has been any indication to anyone driving by the property that a change is about to take place.

     The contractor will most likely have to go through several subcontractors before obtaining all the required paperwork and materials to be delivered to the building site. Then the real work begins.

     The land must be cleared and leveled, and the foundation is poured, following the plan carefully to ensure no steps are missed like leaving areas for necessary electrical and plumbing. Once the foundation is completed the builder will review the plans and engage as many as necessary to build a great team that completes the project to the future owner’s delight. Frequent check-ins with the future owner are needed to ensure everything stays on track and within budget, but sometimes, despite the best of plans and the best of intentions, something unexpected can happen that can set the project back, and sometimes even cause the project to be derailed or canceled.

     But when everything goes according to plan, you end up with a beautiful house that you can turn into a home where many feel welcome, where people will feel able to share with you their good and bad times and you do what you can to make everyone whose life you touch, just a little better, more clarity, more confidence, more direction.

   You can look back and remember when you first had your vision of what you wanted your home to look like, and it may look totally different now, it may be the size of a cabin, or a 60 room mansion, that will not matter in the end. You know what has been created here is a good thing, you did your due diligence and calculated the cost, and even if it cost you more than you anticipated you know the end result was worth it all.

     So at what stage do I believe I am at? Good question- I would say, the foundation is there, the majority of the construction is done, but there will always be more to learn, more to do, there are some minor things still be done, and as with any house it still has to go through final inspection. But I am ready for whatever happens next and will learn and grow from each experience.

Saturday, October 8, 2011

Introduction from my book.

So occasionally I will put in an excerpt from my book that is coming out in the Spring of 2012.

     This is the story of my life, it is not always a pretty story, it is not always a depressing story, but it is my story. It is a story of adversity, and overcoming, and pushing through to see what comes next. Doing the best I can with what I have, but always striving to achieve more, learn more, do more, and serve more.

     I raised 3 daughters, Misty, Mandy and Meagan. Now my girls are raising their families, I have 5 grandchildren, Misty’s children- Nate, Ashley, Mandy’s daughter, Katie and Meagan’s girls Cassie and her sister Bree.

     I ended up being a single parent, this was not part of my plan, but, I have learned that every time I made plans, something we call life-took me in other directions. So I continued to observe.

     I observed what was working for people I knew, and people I didn’t know except through the media. I observed what DID NOT work for others as well, and I have tried to avoid some of those same mistakes for myself. Now this does not mean I have not made my share of missteps, but I have not set out to intentionally cause harm or offense to anyone, but I have learned some powerful life lessons, and I enjoy sharing what I have learned, and I want you to learn as well.

     I grew from being a young city girl, to a wife, mother, room mother, Sunday School Teacher, Softball Coach, Girl Scout Leader, Bible Quiz Parent, chauffeur, Nurse’s Aide, Medical Office Manager, small business owner, Respiratory Therapist, Skilled Care Outreach Manager, Call Center Representative, Call Center Supervisor, Retail Sales Supervisor, back to Call Center Supervisor, whew! And now I am starting over as a Life/Business Coach and Entrepreneur. In almost every role, I was providing some level of Customer Service, Customer Service Training, and Customer Service Support.

     Along my path I have had some great Mentor’s and Bosses, and I have had a few really Poor Bosses with very poor people skills, one even stated that he had poor skills, and said he would not make any apology for it, those of us that reported to him would have to make the best of the situation as he was put in place to be the “clean up man”, whatever that meant. I have tried to take the best practices of those that were successful, and observed what did not work from those that had challenges and develop my own style of managing people, which over the years I have become pretty successful.

     I discovered that each and every job I have EVER had has been providing customer service, yes you heard me right, even as a wife, mother, daughter, friend I am still providing customer service to whomever I am interacting with. And so are you.

     The goal is to give the best part of yourself to whatever action you are taking, work or at home or social situation. Is it easy? NO. Is it worthwhile? YES. Can you do it? ABSOLUTELY, if you choose to.